Releasing Control: Aligning With The Will of God When Life Goes Off Script

Have you ever meticulously planned your life, only to watch it veer wildly off course?

You had a picture in your mind—one you held tightly, prayed over, cried over, fasted over. You were convinced it was from God.

But now… the pieces just don’t fit.

What felt like alignment now feels like chaos. What once seemed so sure now feels uncertain. It’s enough to make you spiral—grasping for control, trying to fix what fell apart, desperate to put things “back in place.”

But here’s a question most won’t ask:

What if the picture you were clinging to… wasn’t the one God painted for you in the first place?

What if aligning with the will of God requires releasing the version of the story you thought He was writing?

Life Interrupted: When God Says “Plot Twist”

Sometimes, God allows the plans we idolized to fall apart—not because He’s cruel, but because He’s committed to our calling.

“Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails.” — Proverbs 19:21 (CSB)

It’s not that God delights in our pain. He doesn’t. But He does desire to see us fully aligning with His will, and if that requires rerouting us through heartbreak, pruning, or confusion—He’ll do it.

Here’s what I’ve learned:

Sometimes the “disappointment” is actually divine protection in disguise.

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The Hidden Idol We Don’t Talk About Enough

Let’s go deeper for a second.

Are you trusting God…

—or are you just hoping He’ll bless your plan?

Sis, control can become an idol when we place more faith in our plan than in His presence.

And even our dream can become a god if we refuse to surrender it.

“You shall have no other gods before Me.” — Exodus 20:3 (NKJV)

We want the outcome we envisioned so badly that we forget to ask:

Is this still God? Or is this just me trying to make it work?

If you’ve been feeling inner tension lately, that might be your signal—it’s time to return to aligning with God’s will, not just pushing your own.

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How to Realign so we are aligning with the Will of God (Without Losing Your Mind)

So what do you do when you Are feeling out of alignment? How do you let go of the white-knuckle grip and step into true surrender?

Here’s a Kingdom-centered framework that’s helped me walk through this in real life—not just spiritually, but practically too.

Use these tools to step back into aligning with the will of God—with confidence and clarity.

1. Surrender Through Heartfelt Prayer

Not “God, please fix it.”

But “God, I give You full permission to rearrange it.”

True prayer is surrender—not striving. It’s laying down the plan, the timeline, the outcome. It’s inviting Him to be the Author and Finisher, not just the consultant.

“Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established.” — Proverbs 16:3 (AMPC)

Action Step:

Journal this: “God, I surrender the picture I’ve been holding. I trust You to paint something better.”

That is where aligning with the will of God begins—surrender.

2. Use Scripture as Your Compass

The Word is not just for comfort—it’s for clarity. It’s your blueprint in confusion.

Meditate on:

• Psalm 33:11 (CSB) – His plans stand forever
• Isaiah 40:28 (NKJV) – He never grows weary or confused
• Romans 8:28 (AMPC) – He works all things for good

Pro Tip:

Create a “God Is” list daily: God is wise. God is faithful. God is strategic.

It trains your spirit to stay grounded when aligning with God’s will doesn’t look like what you imagined.

3. Cultivate Stillness So You Can Actually Hear

Sis, you can’t hear His whisper over your own worry.

“Be still, and know that I am God.” — Psalm 46:10 (CSB)

Stillness isn’t passivity—it’s posture. It’s saying, “Speak Lord, I’m listening.”

Ask God in stillness:

“What am I forcing that You never told me to pursue?”

“What’s the next step—not the full five-year plan?”

Stillness is a spiritual discipline that helps you tune back into aligning with the will of God, not just your emotional urgency.

4. Embrace Trust When It’s Uncomfortable

Trust is not logical. It’s spiritual.

The moment you surrender the outcome is the moment God releases His peace.

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding.” — Proverbs 3:5-6 (NKJV)

Declare this:

“God’s will for me is not fragile. It cannot be broken by delays, detours, or disappointments.”

That declaration is a faith move—one that keeps you rooted in aligning with the will of God even when things feel unstable.

5. Obey the Next Right Thing

God rarely gives the full blueprint. Most of the time, He gives the next right step.

“If you are willing and obedient, you shall eat the good of the land.” — Isaiah 1:19 (NKJV)

You don’t need to see the whole staircase. You just need to take the next step.

Obedience is the way forward in aligning with the will of God—not clarity.

6. Surround Yourself with Truth-Tellers

You don’t need hype girls—you need holy girls who will call you out in love and pray you back into alignment.

“Faithful are the wounds of a friend.” — Proverbs 27:6 (CSB)

Plug into a community like Kingdom Coaching or She Is Confident where you’re not just encouraged—you’re equipped.

Because staying aligned with the will of God often requires accountability.

7. Let God Paint the New Picture

The old picture was cute—but God’s vision is glory-filled.

Action Step:

Write a “Vision from Surrender” list. Not what you want, but what you hear when you pray and fast.

Let that guide your next season—it’s the clearest way to discern whether you’re truly aligning with the will of God.

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Real Talk Q&A: Answering the Questions Women Ask Me Most

Q: What if I missed God’s will years ago?

You didn’t. Joel 2:25 (AMPC) says He restores what was lost. You’re not behind—you’re being refined.

Q: How do I move forward when I still feel grief?

Feel it. But don’t stay there. Worship through the tears. Healing is holy.

Q: How do I know if a dream is from God or just me?

Ask: Does it align with Scripture? Glorify Him? Bring peace, even in the unknown?

These are all rooted in one thing: aligning with the will of God over your own emotions or desires.

What You Release, God Redeems

Sis, the life God is calling you to is so much better than the one you’re trying to control.

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord… — Jeremiah 29:11 (NKJV)

When you surrender the picture, He paints a masterpiece.

When you stop forcing outcomes, you start living in overflow.

When you trust His hand, you don’t need to understand the steps—because you’re already aligning with the will of God.

Reflect + Respond

What’s one thing God is asking you to release today?

Journal it.

Declare it.

Share it with a friend who needs to let go too.

Hey sis… you’re not crazy. You’re just in the middle.

The in-between is messy.

It’s the space where everything feels like it’s falling apart—but God is actually putting you back together.

So if this post hit you deep… pause here. Don’t rush past the conviction.

Let God finish what He just started in your heart.

Journal this:

“Lord, I release what I thought this season would look like. I trust You with what comes next.”

And if you need someone to remind you who you are when the picture no longer makes sense—

Stay connected. I write to women like you—ones who love God but feel undone.

Not to fix you. But to walk with you.

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You’re not forgotten. You’re being rebuilt. One surrendered moment at a time.

And I’m cheering you on—right from the middle with you.