Grieving With Purpose: When Pain Doesn’t Cancel Your Calling
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How God uses your valley to refine your purpose
When Grief Interrupts the Call
Let’s talk about something real:
Grief doesn’t show up with a warning, and it definitely doesn’t ask permission.
It crashes into your life like a storm—and suddenly, the plans you had, the calling you were building toward, and the passion you once felt feel buried under the weight of pain.
I’ve been there. And maybe you have too.
Let me speak truth straight to your spirit:
Grieving with purpose is possible—even in your darkest valley.
Your pain doesn’t disqualify you. It might just deepen the very calling God gave you.
When Calling Meets Crushing
Maybe you’ve experienced:
- The loss of a loved one
- The end of a marriage
- A health battle, business failure, or dream deferred
- Or just the slow ache of life not going how you thought it would
Grief and calling don’t cancel each other out—they collide in ways we don’t always understand.
Grieving with purpose means navigating the space where your emotions are raw, but your spirit still believes. It means acknowledging that pain and purpose can live side by side.
Grief doesn’t just affect your emotions—it can shake your identity.
You wonder:
- “Can I still lead when I feel broken?”
- “How do I create when I can barely breathe?”
- “Is it okay that I feel numb, even when I know God is good?”
Yes. It’s okay.
God can handle your questions.
And purpose doesn’t die in the dark—it just goes deeper.
My Story: Writing Through the Deepest Grief
In 2023, my beloved husband went home to be with the Lord after a nearly 7-year battle with cancer.
For years, I was not just a wife—I was his full-time caregiver, walking hand-in-hand with him through countless treatments, prayers, and pain. Every day was hard. Every minute of every day was hard.
Some days, I showed up on the blog.
Some days, I couldn’t even lift my hands to type.
But I fought to keep my head above water, to stay faithful to the calling God placed on my life—while holding the hand of the man I loved and watched suffer.
When he passed on July 6, 2023, my whole world shattered.
I had no desire to write.
I couldn’t feel words in my spirit.
Some days, just breathing felt like too much.
I journaled when I could. I prayed constantly. But ministry and creativity felt like foreign languages in the fog of loss.
My life had revolved around my husband. And now, I had to learn how to live again—for me, with God.
Grieving with purpose didn’t mean pretending I was okay.
It meant letting God meet me in the wreckage. It meant learning to rise one surrendered step at a time.
So if you’re reading this from the middle of the ache, please know this:
You are not alone. And you are not disqualified.
Grief may have shaken everything—but purpose is still holding you.
What the Bible Says About Grieving With God
Grief is not weakness. It’s human. It’s holy. And it’s something God deeply understands.
Even Jesus wept.
“Jesus wept.”— John 11:35, KJV
Even David cried out in his cave seasons.
“I cried unto the Lord with my voice; with my voice unto the Lord did I make my supplication. I poured out my complaint before him; I shewed before him my trouble.”— Psalm 142:1–2, KJV
Even Elijah collapsed under the weight of despair.
“But he himself went a day’s journey into the wilderness, and came and sat down under a juniper tree: and he requested for himself that he might die; and said, It is enough; now, O Lord, take away my life; for I am not better than my fathers.”— 1 Kings 19:4, KJV
Even Paul said he despaired even of life.
“For we would not, brethren, have you ignorant of our trouble which came to us in Asia, that we were pressed out of measure, above strength, insomuch that we despaired even of life.”— 2 Corinthians 1:8, KJV
But they didn’t stay there—and neither will you.
“The Lord is near the brokenhearted; he saves those crushed in spirit.”— Psalm 34:18, CSB
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds [curing their pains and their sorrows].”— Psalm 147:3, AMPC
You are not forgotten.
You are not disqualified.
You are still deeply called.
Purpose Isn’t Paused—It’s Purified
Grief might feel like a detour, but Heaven still calls you forward.
Sometimes:
- God uses loss to cut off what was never meant to go with you
- He uses silence to tune your ears to His voice
- He uses sorrow to birth deeper compassion, authority, and anointing
The valley isn’t void—it’s a womb.
What you’re walking through isn’t wasted—it’s being woven.
“After you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace… will Himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you.”— 1 Peter 5:10, ESV
Sis, healing births your calling, you’re going from broken to bold!
Are you walking through pain and wondering where God is in the middle of it? Sis, your grief doesn’t disqualify your calling—but it does need healing.
In His Presence: A 30-Day Journey of Deliverance and Inner Healing is your invitation to meet Jesus in the secret place and let Him restore every shattered piece. Through Scripture, reflection, and Spirit-led prayer—you’ll walk into alignment, wholeness, and freedom.
Healing isn’t a race—it’s a surrender.
What Grieving With Purpose Really Looks Like
Grieving with purpose is not about rushing your healing.
It’s about trusting God to redeem your pain in His time, for His glory.
Here’s what it might look like:
- Writing what you’re learning through the pain
- Creating resources that comfort others in their valleys
- Leading small, Spirit-led conversations, even if you don’t feel “whole” yet
- Saying yes to just one thing God is nudging you toward
- Sitting with Him in silence—and letting that be enough for today
Purpose isn’t always loud. Sometimes it’s a whisper.
Sometimes it’s a scribbled journal page.
Sometimes it’s a simple yes in the middle of your tears.
How to Walk With Purpose While You Heal
Don’t believe the lies grief tries to plant about your worth. You can start overcoming limiting beliefs through God’s promises.
There’s no formula, but there is grace. Here’s how to begin:
- Give yourself permission to rest without guilt
- Be honest with God—He already knows
- Do one life-giving thing a day, no matter how small
- Let trusted community carry you when you can’t carry yourself
- Keep the door open to purpose, even if it’s just cracked right now
- Journal what God is revealing—your valley voice might become someone else’s lifeline
Closing Thought
You may not feel strong.
You may not feel capable.
But purpose didn’t leave when grief showed up. What if grief is where God clarifies your next step? Sometimes you just need to start by seeking clarity with God’s vision.
God isn’t waiting for you to “get over it.”
He’s walking with you through it.
And when you come out (because you will), you’ll carry more power, more compassion, and more clarity than ever before.
You’re still called.
You’re still seen.
And God is still working through your yes—even in the middle of your healing.
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